"Mom, but not just mum": rediscovering your place as a woman after the arrival of a baby.

Becoming a mother is life-changing. It means immense love, a disrupted routine, a transformed body, and an entire life reorganized around a tiny being.
But amid the bottles, broken nights, and to-do lists... one question often comes up, silently:

And who am I, apart from being a "mom"?

At 23 Mai Paris, we believe that motherhood should not erase who you are as a woman. Quite the contrary. So today, we're talking about this essential but sometimes overlooked stage: rediscovering your place as a woman after the arrival of your baby.

Why do we forget ourselves after giving birth?

When a baby is born, so is a mother. But... there's no "pause" button on the rest of your identity.

And yet :

• We put aside our desires, our passions, our routines
• We sometimes feel "utilitarian": breastfeeding, carrying, consoling, feeding...
• You have no time for yourself and no mental energy to think about anything other than your baby.

That's normal. And temporary. But it's important to remember: you have the right to exist outside of your role as a mother.

Finding your place, little by little

You don't have to revolutionize everything overnight.
But it is possible, and even necessary, to reclaim small parts of yourself.
Here are a few gentle, concrete steps:

1. Reconnecting with your body

Your body gave birth. It deserves to be celebrated, not judged.

• Take the time to look at yourself with tenderness
• Offer him/her nursing clothes that gently and stylishly embrace its new shapes. (At 23 Mai Paris, that's our mission.)
• Dance a little, even in your living room. Walk alone. Move the way you like.

The body is a gateway to the self.

2. Creating bubbles of chosen solitude

Even 10 minutes. No baby, no phone, no noise.
Hot coffee, a notebook, a podcast, a little silence.
These are not luxuries: they are acts of emotional survival.

Tip: Plan these moments in advance with your partner or friends and family. And treat them like a real important date (because they are).

3.  Rediscover the joy of dressing for yourself

Not to look good, but to find ourselves.

Wearing an outfit you feel good in can change a day.

At 23 Mai Pariswe design clothes to remind you that :

You can breastfeed AND feel feminine.
You can have a postpartum body AND stay stylish.
You can be tired AND want to look good for yourself.

You don't have to wait for an "after" to love yourself again. Discover our Breastfeeding dresses and nursing tops to feel beautiful every day.

4. Make room for your passions again

You used to love reading, writing, sewing, painting, yoga, cooking...
Give yourself back just a little time for that.

No need to exercise for two hours or read an entire novel. Five minutes is already a victory.

5. Recreating social ties

Motherhood can be a lonely time. And sometimes you lose touch with "the world before".

Dare:

• Send a message to a friend
• Offer coffee (with or without baby)
• Join a circle of moms or a shared activity

Talking to other women feels good. And it reminds you that you're not alone.

Mother, but also wife, friend, lover, creative...

You are all that. And you have the right to be it all.
Your baby doesn't need a perfect mother. He needs a mom who's alive, present and real.

At 23 Mai Paris, we see you. We understand you. And we support you with nursing and maternity clothes that support your daily life as a mom without forgetting the woman you are.

If you are breastfeeding, here are some of our nursing clothes that may interest you:

Breastfeeding t-shirts
Breastfeeding sweaters
Breastfeeding tank tops
Breastfeeding dresses
Breastfeeding pyjamas