Weaning from breastfeeding: why this stage can be so upsetting and how to manage it gently

Ending breastfeeding can be much more emotional than starting it. Many mothers feel sad, angry or guilty when weaning. It's not just a physical change, but a profound transition in the mother-child bond. At 23 Mai Paris, we'd like to support you every step of the way, and offer you guidance to help you get through this period in a caring way.

1. Understanding what weaning involves

Weaning doesn't just mean stopping breastfeeding, it symbolizes a new chapter for you and your baby. The end of a cycle brings with it many emotions:

• the end of an exclusive, intimate bond that requires emotional adjustment;

• the perception of a missed "whim" or a return to a previous life that does not correspond to your expectations;

• guilt at not having breastfed for as long as planned or desired.
  These feelings are more common than you might think. They deserve to be heard and welcomed.

2. Why are these emotions so strong?

Mourning the loss of breastfeeding

Even when breastfeeding has gone well, weaning can cause a form of mourning. We go from a very present "nurturing" role to a different relationship. For some mothers, the change of rhythm, relationship and activity is brutal.

The feeling of "letting go

When the decision to stop comes from an external constraint (going back to work, baby's sleep, practicality), the decision is not always taken freely. This can generate anger or frustration.

Societal and personal impact

We talk a lot about the beginning of breastfeeding, but little about the end. Yet listening to what's going on emotionally at this time can help you see things more clearly, better anticipate the transition and feel less isolated.

3. How to go through weaning more serenely

Putting your feelings into words

Talking to a loved one, a mom friend or a professional can help clarify your emotions and make you more aware of your needs.

Add value to your career

No matter how long it takes or how difficult it is, every feed is a gesture of love. Remembering this helps turn the end into a celebration rather than a regret.

Organizing the transition

Plan a symbolic moment to mark the end of the breastfeeding cycle: a special cuddle, an outing with baby, a gentle word to yourself.

Taking care of yourself

Give yourself time to recharge. A comfortable garment designed for breastfeeding (like those from 23 Mai Paris) can also be a comforting ally during this period.

Conclusion

Weaning can be a delicate time, but also an opportunity to renew your bond with your child. With forethought, self-care and support, you can get through this stage gently. At 23 Mai Paris, we're here to support you every step of the way, with practical, elegant clothing to suit your needs as a mother.