"Mom, but not just mum": rediscovering your place as a woman after the arrival of a baby.

Becoming a mother is overwhelming. It's immense love, a rhythm turned upside down, a body transformed, and a whole life reorganized around a tiny being. 💛
But in the midst of bottle-feeding, sleepless nights and to-do lists... one question often comes up, silently:

👉 And who am I again, apart from being "mom"?

At 23 Mai Pariswe believe that motherhood shouldn't erase the woman you are. Quite the opposite, in fact. So today, we're talking about that essential, but sometimes forgotten, step: finding your place as a woman after the arrival of baby.

💭 Why do we forget ourselves after birth?

When a baby is born, so is a mother. But... there's no "pause" button on the rest of your identity.

And yet :

• We put aside our desires, our passions, our routines
• We sometimes feel "utilitarian": breastfeeding, carrying, consoling, feeding...
• You have no time for yourself and no mental energy to think about anything other than your baby.

This is normal. ❤️ And temporary. But it's important to tell yourself: you have the right to exist outside your maternal role.

✨ Finding your place again, little by little

You don't have to revolutionize everything overnight.
But it is possible, and even necessary, to reclaim small parts of yourself.
Here are a few gentle, concrete steps:

1. 🤍 Reconnecting with your body

Your body gave birth. It deserves to be celebrated, not judged.

• Take the time to look at yourself with tenderness
• Give her clothes that fit her new shape with softness and style (at 23 Mai Paris, that's our mission 💪).
• Dance a little, even in your living room. Walk alone. Move the way you like.

The body is a gateway to the self.

2. 🧘 Creating bubbles of chosen solitude

Even 10 minutes. No baby, no phone, no noise.
Hot coffee, a notebook, a podcast, a little silence.
These are not luxuries: they are acts of emotional survival.

💡 Tip: plan these moments in advance with your partner or entourage. And hold on to them as a real, important appointment (because they are).

3. 👗 Rediscover the pleasure of dressing for yourself

Not to look good, but to find ourselves.

Wearing an outfit you feel good in can change a day.

At 23 Mai Pariswe design clothes to remind you that :

✨ You can breastfeed AND feel feminine.
✨ You can have a postpartum body AND stay stylish.
✨ You can be tired AND want to please yourself, for yourself.

You don't have to wait for an "after" to love yourself again.

4. 🎨 Make room for your passions

You used to love reading, writing, sewing, painting, yoga, cooking...
Give yourself back just a little time for that.

💡 You don't have to work out for 2 hours or read an entire novel. 5 minutes is already a victory.

5. 🤝 Recreating social ties

Motherhood can be a lonely time. And sometimes you lose touch with "the world before".

Dare:

• Send a message to a friend
• Offer coffee (with or without baby)
• Join a circle of moms or a shared activity

💬 Talking to other women feels good. And it reminds you that you're not alone.

💛 Mom, but also wife, friend, lover, creative...

You are all that. And you have the right to be it all.
Your baby doesn't need a perfect mother. He needs a mom who's alive, present and real.

At 23 Mai Pariswe see you. We understand you. And we accompany you with clothes that support your daily life as a mother without forgetting the woman you are.